Waiting… waiting… waiting…
I want to know now, I need to know now, ok, I am done waiting, I’m moving on…
That is what we do in the world we live in. We don’t wait for the outcome of a situation we just rush off to the “next best thing” only to wake up and find out it’s just the same ole’ thing. By the time you get to 40 (if you’re like me) you look back and wish you had just waited instead of trying to fix your mixed emotions. We rush into yet another disappointment we have to hide away in our memory.
Waiting is so hard in this era of fast food, smartphone, Google at your fingertips, and no accountability. We live in a real easy place to indulge in the pleasures of our desires, which leads to bad decisions and undesired consequences. Our need for pleasure has become greater than our need for genuine love.
Waiting for love, what does that even mean, and how can I?
First, you must figure out who you are.
Many people tend to lose themselves in relationships and when it is over they are left with a broken heart and they are a stranger to themselves. From this point, people usually jump right into the next relationship without thought of introspection. If you break up with someone or even if you haven’t started dating yet; take the time to figure out who you are.
What do you like?
What are your goals in life?
What are your convictions?
Secondly, you need to know what you want in a relationship.
You need to make a list of things you will want in a relationship and things you will not allow in your relationship. Many of us try to make the lists after we start seeing someone, but unfortunately, that is too late. We already have feelings for the person so we justify and put up with things that will lead down a rocky path in our future.
What do you want in a relationship?
What is NOT acceptable?
Lastly, when you start a new relationship respect yourself.
You need to respect yourself enough to stay true to who you are and what you want for your life. That is not to encourage you to be self-centered, but what I am saying is that it is vitally important to hold on to who you are. We tend to be so caught up in trying to please the other person in order to keep them, that we compromise who we are and what is acceptable.
MAKE SURE TO READ THIS!!! Nobody and I mean NOBODY respects a person that doesn’t respect themselves. Waiting is hard!! However, if you take to heart what has been said you can prepare yourself for a healthy relationship while you are waiting. If you are ready, the right person will come along.
Know yourself… Love yourself… Respect yourself…
Here at Hope First we know how important relationships are in life, and we also understand how relationships can make and break us. We are here to talk through any situation you might find yourself in.