Your girlfriend just told you she was pregnant, what now?

There are 3 things you need to do before you decide…

decide to take responsibility, speak up, and embrace becoming a father…

determine to know the facts and choose your best future…

dedicate yourself to supporting her and becoming the best dad you can be..

decide to take responsibility in her choice,

Do you want to:
Become the man you were meant to be?
Be the hero for someone who really needs you?
Leave the greatest legacy?

Then decide to take responsibility, speak up, and embrace becoming a father. Your partner is going through many changes.  An unplanned pregnancy can leave you both feeling scared, depressed, and upset. You may feel powerless in a culture that says “it is her choice, not yours.” The truth is, any decision about the baby affects all of you.  This is the time to speak up—and team up—with her, otherwise you could end up getting shut out. Doesn’t it make sense that you and your partner make this important decision together? After all, it’s your unborn child too. Yes, it is her choice in the end, but it is your responsibility to speak up and be involved in the decision, for her, it could be a hard and painful choice. The very best plan means that before she decides, the two of you have decided together.

Life is incredibly fragile and amazing.  From the very beginning of pregnancy, your partner is feeding and sheltering your baby boy or girl. Your baby’s features, gender, and hair and eye color are determined at the time of fertilization (also called conception).  Your baby’s brain and spinal cord begin forming three weeks later while your baby’s heart begins beating just 22 days after fertilization.

6-7 weeks the arms, legs, and kidneys are starting to form.

91/2 weeks fingers are distinct, and the baby can hiccup.

10 weeks nearly all the organs are forming; babies are active and it can be seen on an ultrasound.

12 weeks unborn babies begin forming unique fingerprints.

16 weeks it is possible to tell if you are having a boy or a girl.

28 weeks babies develop a sense of taste and soon develop preferences based on what mom eats.

During the final weeks of pregnancy, the unborn baby’s brain is growing rapidly and his or her body is packing on the pounds in preparation for birth.

did you every think about                                                                                                                 what it would be like to                                                                                                                       have a son or daughter?

Now you know what’s happening inside her and how your baby is growing. Decide to take responsibility. Decide to be a voice for your unborn child and tell your partner about your desire to embrace becoming a father.

determine to know the facts and choose your best future,

Men tend to think that being “supportive” means they have to keep their emotions to themselves and leave the decision up to their partner.  You have a right to know the facts, too. There are different types of abortion procedures; the abortion pill, surgical abortion, and later term abortion.  All of the procedures have some risk to the mother’s life.  Check out the links for each procedure to get informed.

After abortion many women experience:                                                                                                                           clinical depression and anxiety,                                                                                                                                           drug and alcohol abuse,                                                                                                                                                       suicidal thoughts and attempts,                                                                                                                                           relationship difficulties,
including sexual intimacy issues.

As you can see, this decision affects much more than just the next nine months, it can impact the rest of her life—and yours, too. Determine now to share the facts with her, and choose your best future by speaking up before it’s too late.

 

dedicate yourself to supporting her and becoming the best dad you can be,

You now know that your opinion is vital to her decision about the life growing inside of her. The truth is that women are more likely to choose abortion if they experience lack of support.  That’s why now is the time to dedicate yourself to supporting her. Becoming a parent is not easy, but it is one of the most rewarding things that you will ever do because your children are your greatest legacy.  So dedicate yourself now to becoming the best dad you can be by doing the following three things.

  1. be a voice in her choice.                                                                                                                                                     Discuss what you learned.  Tell your partner how you feel about the child growing inside of her.  You can start simply by saying, “Can we talk?  I want to figure this out together.”
  2. listen well and remain gentle in your tone.                                                                                                                      If your partner doesn’t want you involved in the choice and is leaning toward abortion, you might start by saying, “Please help me understand why you feel this way.”   This approach will show that you want to understand and that you value her and her point of view.  When you listen to her concerns without walking away, even if she gets angry, she will be more likely to feel heard and respected.
  3. tell her how you will support her and your child.                                                                                                        Many women choose to have an abortion because they don’t want to be single mothers or because they are having problems in their relationships with their partners. Your commitment to help raise your child could have a direct impact on her decision.  And remember, building a strong and healthy marriage with her is one of the most important ways to show her that you are committed to support her and your child.

 

There are few decisions as great and life changing as the decision to embrace becoming a father.  

Before she decides, make sure you are part of the decision process